My book..

Sharing this with my FB family..not sharing my whole

I’ve been in much meditation and prayer concerning direction. God has revealed much to me as far as insight and direction. He has put great people in my path. I’m stepping out and I’m publishing my material.
Name of my book will be: Learn, Heal, Love..
This will be my first book cover..
We learn from the past, we heal in the present, we love going forward!! I’m confident it will be a best seller…



I had an eye opening experience today. People are afraid to share their power. They won’t empower others. The air is too rarefied. To empower means to share, equip, enable, or supply to someone else what made you successful. If you don’t share your power, or what made you a success, you cannot empower!!! We must teach, share, enable, equip, supply our knowledge to empower. We need to do better. What are you afraid of? Losing your power, or someone doing better than you? If you have a friend who only depends on you to feed them, they will never be able to feed themselves unless they are taught to do for themselves. They will always need fed.
Teach a man to fish, he will always have something to eat, and share with others, then, teach him to own the pond from whence he fished from…empowering individuals only duplicates success…
#letsGo #empower
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When placed in the same system, people, however different, tend to produce similar results.
The systems perspective tells us that we must look beyond individual mistakes or bad luck to understand important problems. We must look beyond personalities and events. We must look into the underlying structures which shape individual actions and create the conditions where types of events become likely.
A truly profound and different insight is the way you begin to see that the system causes its own behavior.

Stress Model of Crisis

Baseline behavior(Normal behavior) is considered PreCrisis..PreCrisis is normal behavior that is under control.

A person/client is triggered by an event, such as being told no, redirection, preferred activity to non-preferred activity, transitions, etc.

Now, triggers can be good or bad. In this model, we can assume triggers are bad.
Triggers are where the escalation begins. Think of an escalator going up. We don’t have to get on it to go upstairs, but we choose to. The main feeling experienced here is agitation.
It’s a choice to become escalated, as I explain to my clients, this is the part of the model where the deescalation techniques should be implemented. You will see why in a minute.
So let’s say our client is escalated, and won’t utilize any interventions. If interventions aren’t successful, and client isn’t following directions, client is headed toward outburst. We attempt to continue to de-escalate, curbing aggression. Aggression increases during this phase of the model.

Envision a volcano erupting, or the Incredible Hulk morphing into an angry beast. This is the apex of the crisis, where violence and destruction occurs. Windows get broken, staff get punched and kicked, and the volcano blows up. The client has become out of control. Something has to happen. This is the point of no return. Again, a choice has been selected here. There is still some control of behavior here, even in this stage.
Once the outburst has occurred, the client is moving toward Recovery, where you can reason with them and utilize interventions. What goes up, must come down.
That’s why it’s important to intercede and implement reasoning during the escalation phase rather than the recovery phase. When client deescalates, they are headed toward baseline (normal) behavior.
This cycle can repeat itself several times in a session, with a client or person fully recovered and can be triggered again in a matter of minutes if conditions are ripe.
CMM © 2014



Wonder why folks have a trigger finger? Wonder why folks are on edge and the next thing tips them over?
It’s mindsets and attitudes cultivated from previous generations…we learn how to cope from our parents. Coping skills drive the behaviors, good or bad. Once we show others how to cope with control, this world will change. We have to learn how to be under control. I teach that there are 3 types of control: In, Out, and Under. Take a deep breath and think about that one. Don’t make a permanent choice with a temporary situation. Too many have done that. Choice is always an individual one and not collective when it comes to you as a person, but your choices affect everyone in your circle.
CMM © 2014


At an outreach earlier, I spoke to an educator who teaches in the local community. He said that he felt like a social worker more than a teacher. I felt for him and I understand. I stated that in order to be effective in reaching youth that are affected, we need to fill the belly before we can fill the mind. He agreed.

If a child hasn’t eaten since lunch at school YESTERDAY, and hasn’t had a good night sleep, and had to duck and dodge bullets, drug pushers, etc on the way to school, the last thing they want to hear is how to multiply 10 times 10. They want to know where they going to eat, if I’m going to be safe, and if I can arrive home safely, and if my home is going to be safe when I get there. There will be no learning when 30 heads are hurting and 30 bellies are rumbling. A new appreciation for educators and administrations has been birthed today.

Cycles of Dysfunction- Trauma

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I want to talk about a subject that is continuing to keep the cycles of dysfunction going around. It’s a 6 letter word called:
Trauma is defined as a deeply distressing or disturbing experience.
In medicine, it’s physical injury.

Trauma is a situation or a memory that you want to forget, but CAN’T!!
The sad part about trauma is that it occurs, individuals are wounded, damaged, and injured physically, mentally, and emotionally. Some never get help for their trauma, as they never heal.

The sad part about trauma is that people know it happened to them or others, but won’t pick their head out of the sand. We allow it to happen, but don’t do anything to heal for it.

Think about a good memory, a memory that is pleasant, good, and an awesome experience. You remember every detail about the experience, and you want to tell everyone…

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Messiah College McNeil (2014)

Righteousness exalts a nation.

“We complain about the causes, we gripe about the scope of the problem. Well, here’s some solutions:
Community leaders
Additionally, we must build and develop a platform on which to stand and grow and develop programming that empowers, equips, and teaches men to be the head of their homes, respect women, be heroes to their children, and be pillars in the community. Let’s develop programming that empowers young girls to respect themselves and focus on healing from the hurtful, abusive things that were done to them. We didn’t just stumble into fatherlessness over these several centuries, but we can do an about face and use our experience as our fuel to transform our communities to reduce the problem. Many children are lacking their natural protector, which is their father.
From poverty to aggressive behavior to attention-seeking behaviors, our affected individuals need to see relative individuals in positions of authority. Everyone they see in authority, they fear, There isn’t enough men out here!!!

Our children need to develop critical thinking skills, goal setting, and gaining knowledge with empowerment AND skill sets.

It’s time for us to merge forces to form a clearinghouse. It’s time to save the boys AND the girls. Not everyone is called or chosen to do this. Why? Because anyone can put facts and figures together and present their findings but if you don’t have the sweat equity to go with passion, it won’t be effective. It’s as a sounding brass. Real recognizes real at this point.”

Civil Rights Act of 1964


king-1964-06-19 Juneteenth 1964: Martin Luther King, Jr after finding out that the Civil Rights Act of 1964 had passed (after a 534-hour filibuster by Southern senators).

The Civil Rights Act of 1964 outlawed discrimination in the US based on race, colour, religion, sex or national origin. It also outlawed segregation, keeping races separate, at schools, public places and most businesses. It, and the Voting Rights Act a year later, overthrew Jim Crow.

School busing and affirmative action grew out of it as policies designed to meet its demands

It was one of the main civil rights reforms of the 1960s:

  • 1964: Civil Rights Act
  • 1965: Voting Rights Act
  • 1965: Immigration and Nationality Act
  • 1967: Loving v Virginia – overturned laws against mixed-race marriage.
  • 1968: Fair Housing Act

It was not passed because of a White man in a suit, like in a Spielberg film or an American high school history book.

It was…

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