I had an eye opening experience today. People are afraid to share their power. They won’t empower others. The air is too rarefied. To empower means to share, equip, enable, or supply to someone else what made you successful. If you don’t share your power, or what made you a success, you cannot empower!!! We must teach, share, enable, equip, supply our knowledge to empower. We need to do better. What are you afraid of? Losing your power, or someone doing better than you? If you have a friend who only depends on you to feed them, they will never be able to feed themselves unless they are taught to do for themselves. They will always need fed.
Teach a man to fish, he will always have something to eat, and share with others, then, teach him to own the pond from whence he fished from…empowering individuals only duplicates success…
#letsGo #empower
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When placed in the same system, people, however different, tend to produce similar results.
The systems perspective tells us that we must look beyond individual mistakes or bad luck to understand important problems. We must look beyond personalities and events. We must look into the underlying structures which shape individual actions and create the conditions where types of events become likely.
A truly profound and different insight is the way you begin to see that the system causes its own behavior.

Stress Model of Crisis

Baseline behavior(Normal behavior) is considered PreCrisis..PreCrisis is normal behavior that is under control.

A person/client is triggered by an event, such as being told no, redirection, preferred activity to non-preferred activity, transitions, etc.

Now, triggers can be good or bad. In this model, we can assume triggers are bad.
Triggers are where the escalation begins. Think of an escalator going up. We don’t have to get on it to go upstairs, but we choose to. The main feeling experienced here is agitation.
It’s a choice to become escalated, as I explain to my clients, this is the part of the model where the deescalation techniques should be implemented. You will see why in a minute.
So let’s say our client is escalated, and won’t utilize any interventions. If interventions aren’t successful, and client isn’t following directions, client is headed toward outburst. We attempt to continue to de-escalate, curbing aggression. Aggression increases during this phase of the model.

Envision a volcano erupting, or the Incredible Hulk morphing into an angry beast. This is the apex of the crisis, where violence and destruction occurs. Windows get broken, staff get punched and kicked, and the volcano blows up. The client has become out of control. Something has to happen. This is the point of no return. Again, a choice has been selected here. There is still some control of behavior here, even in this stage.
Once the outburst has occurred, the client is moving toward Recovery, where you can reason with them and utilize interventions. What goes up, must come down.
That’s why it’s important to intercede and implement reasoning during the escalation phase rather than the recovery phase. When client deescalates, they are headed toward baseline (normal) behavior.
This cycle can repeat itself several times in a session, with a client or person fully recovered and can be triggered again in a matter of minutes if conditions are ripe.
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Wonder why folks have a trigger finger? Wonder why folks are on edge and the next thing tips them over?
It’s mindsets and attitudes cultivated from previous generations…we learn how to cope from our parents. Coping skills drive the behaviors, good or bad. Once we show others how to cope with control, this world will change. We have to learn how to be under control. I teach that there are 3 types of control: In, Out, and Under. Take a deep breath and think about that one. Don’t make a permanent choice with a temporary situation. Too many have done that. Choice is always an individual one and not collective when it comes to you as a person, but your choices affect everyone in your circle.
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At an outreach earlier, I spoke to an educator who teaches in the local community. He said that he felt like a social worker more than a teacher. I felt for him and I understand. I stated that in order to be effective in reaching youth that are affected, we need to fill the belly before we can fill the mind. He agreed.

If a child hasn’t eaten since lunch at school YESTERDAY, and hasn’t had a good night sleep, and had to duck and dodge bullets, drug pushers, etc on the way to school, the last thing they want to hear is how to multiply 10 times 10. They want to know where they going to eat, if I’m going to be safe, and if I can arrive home safely, and if my home is going to be safe when I get there. There will be no learning when 30 heads are hurting and 30 bellies are rumbling. A new appreciation for educators and administrations has been birthed today.

Cycles of Dysfunction- Trauma

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I want to talk about a subject that is continuing to keep the cycles of dysfunction going around. It’s a 6 letter word called:
Trauma is defined as a deeply distressing or disturbing experience.
In medicine, it’s physical injury.

Trauma is a situation or a memory that you want to forget, but CAN’T!!
The sad part about trauma is that it occurs, individuals are wounded, damaged, and injured physically, mentally, and emotionally. Some never get help for their trauma, as they never heal.

The sad part about trauma is that people know it happened to them or others, but won’t pick their head out of the sand. We allow it to happen, but don’t do anything to heal for it.

Think about a good memory, a memory that is pleasant, good, and an awesome experience. You remember every detail about the experience, and you want to tell everyone…

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